Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Showing posts with label relationship. Show all posts
Wednesday, March 25, 2015
ARIES April 2015.- Big Relationship Changes!
How will the Lunar Eclipse in Libra affect Aries this April? Jupiter is turning direct-found out how Aries will benefit. How will the planets support and hinder Aries. Where should Aries direct their energy and what to expect this April.
Saturday, March 21, 2015
Avoid These Love Traps
Blind spots exist in relationships - are you missing a dangerous one in yours?
It is always easier to notice other people's blind spots, but when it comes to our own we need some help. We may coast along for a time, perhaps years, thinking that our relationship is going great, when suddenly our lover walks out on us, or decides to tell it like it is. We are shocked to the core and left wondering what we could have done to make things better.
Astrology and knowledge of our charts is a wonderful tool for helping to find and work on our blind spots. We need to become aware of those areas in which we were all too blissfully unaware. It also helps to uncover the blind spots in the relationship itself.
The natal chart gives us an easy way to find out what our shadow side looks like. It helps to turn the chart upside down so that the Descendent becomes the Ascendant and vice versa. So if someone has a Cancer Ascendant they will have Capricorn on the Descendant. Reversing the chart means they now have a Capricorn Ascendant, which immediately shows the possibility that they may be repressing their own authority and refusing to be a father figure to themselves. The upshot is that they then choose as mates or partners those who will act as parental figures and tell them what to do. Inevitably they will resent this until they learn to take control of their lives rather than allowing others to do this for them.
Using this method we can also learn from reading the whole 'upside down' chart as if it was our chart.
This method works because of the phenomenon of 'projection.' This has a lot in common with the projector used at the cinema and the image on the screen. The audience is engrossed in the movie and forget that it is there because of the projector. The same is true of people. We are so engrossed in the movie of our life that we forget that it is our own thoughts, feelings, and strongly held beliefs projected on the screen of time and space that create our circumstances - which include our relationships.
The way we think about our lover often dictates the way they behave toward us. Yet it is more complicated than that. Our lover may be an actor in one of our story lines in which we play the part of victim of love, the destroyer of love, the eternal seducer and many other variations.
In order to uncover our blind spots we need to dig deep within and locate the stories and archetypes that shape our love lives. We need to notice what archetype or archetypes we are acting out in our relationships and to observe moment by moment, especially when things get difficult what is going on within us. Clarity brings understanding and as a result healing.
We also have to be honest with ourselves, or if this is impossible, ask someone we trust implicitly to tell us the truth about ourselves. Astrology and the astrological chart will reveal the main story lines that we are likely to adopt in our intimate relationships, so an in depth knowledge of the chart will yield many secrets and many ah-ha moments.
In order to overcome these blind spots we need to create new possible futures and potentials for our relationship and begin to live from these rather than from our old stories. We detach from the victim state into the creative state. We can then decide how we want things to pan out, and through focus and the ability to nurture our relationships along the right lines we can find inner peace and happiness.
Monday, March 16, 2015
Forbidden Love
You have found an amazing man or woman who makes you smile all the time. You look forward to seeing him or her. This person is smart, attractive, thoughtful, and has a really incredible personality. You feel so good inside every time you think about being with him or her. There is only one problem though: your crush is already seeing somebody else, and maybe even in a serious, commited relationship.
So, what can you do? You have four basic options. You could:
- Make it your mission in life to make this person see that you are meant to be together, which might make you seem desperate and could cause some major drama.
- Accept the reality of the situation and make the decision to just be friends and not interfere with his/her relationship.
- Send out good vibes to the Universe that you want him/her and let fate take its course, whether that means you end up together or are driven farther apart.
- Acknowledge how special you are and have the confidence and faith in yourself that when the time is right, you will meet someone who is free to love you as much as you deserve to be loved.
Give this a great deal of thought. What you decide to do is up to you, but remember that there are other people's feelings involved and there is more than just one person out there for you. Let us explore each one of the scenarios described above, and how all four work or fail with traditional astrological compatibility.
If you went with accepting reality, then you would have your wits about you and were very concerned about not wanting to hurt anyone (including yourself). After all, your crush's partner found him or her first and there must be something that bonds the two of them together. Right? Being friends is fine if you're truly fine with the relationship going no further. Do not have any expectations. Also, be careful about spending too much of your free time with your "friend" when you should be setting your sights on finding a mate of your own. To have love, you need to be open to it and looking around.
Sending out good vibes to the Universe as outlined in the third approach is very positive but surprisingly not appropriate for this particular set of circumstances, even from an astrological point of view. We have all done this sort of thing but it is not the healthiest outlook to take. Instead, the stars encourage you to call upon them for the courage and self-love it takes to be ready when the love that is meant to happen comes your way. We cannot always have who we want or what we want - period. If your taboo crush likes you as a friend but loves loves another, then that is that. Send out good vibes that say you are ready for lasting love to come into your life from another source.
The last option is the best and most effective choice because it takes the focus off of this unavailable and unattainable man and shines the spotlight on you. You are as deserving of love as every other individual is. It can be disappointing, sad, and downright discouraging when love seems to be in the air for everyone but you. It feels like you have been excluded from a club that you want so desperately to be a member!
What you need to do is to find ways to reinforce how special and precious you are. There are many ways to do this. You might want to try out a new hairstyle or a new look, spend time with friends who make you feel important and popular, read a book that resonates with you, or take some time to get in touch with your spiritual side, such as learning to meditate or taking a yoga class.
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